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I was lounging at the beach this weekend and picked up on some lyrics from Nicki Minaj –

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From song The Night is Still Young. 

I am super feeling these words, they’ve been in my head ever since.

Sometimes it’s easy to compare yourself to others or get caught up in social norms, but deep down I think it’s important to realize that life is long and each of our lives unfold at their own pace. Some people are slow starters but finish strong, others kind of keep it slow and steady the whole time, others shine bright at the beginning and things unravel at some point…and then there’s every scenario or combination of scenarios in between. Maybe some people never take flight at all. Maybe some people kill it the whole way through and never hit any real bumps. Who knows.

Regardless, you just have to live strong and give it your all. Mistakes are part of the game – and we need them – to learn, improve, stay humble. They’re good reminders.

Keep getting up when you get knocked down. Keep dusting your shoulders off. Keep real proud when it’s time for that, too. Know how dope you are. Acknowledge the good. Go after your dreams, and don’t get caught up in the rest of it. Don’t dwell on mistakes, just course correct. Don’t overcompensate for short comings, that’s never a good look; be comfortable in your skin and own who you are. Just do you, trust your journey, know that things are happening at your own pace (even if in a different order than for other people or than you thought), and believe.

I read a Harper’s Bazaar interview with Jennifer Aniston in their April 2016 issue, and she says some things I love a lot: “…in your 20s, you didn’t know shit. For me, in my 30s I was just trying to figure it all out. Then when you hit 40, you’re like, ‘Oh, okay. I got this.’”

Some people may be ahead of you in some areas, but realize that you may have gotten a head start on some things they haven’t even begun to address yet…we’re all unique – different and similar at the same time.

Make sure you do have dreams though! And go for it! The years pass, time flies and so this is the time. Right now. You want to look back and know what you did and who you were, and that it was all worth the ride.

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Happy Sunday, lots of love.

xx

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I’ve suffered a couple tiny heartbreaks during the past year or so – definitely not of the worst kind, but notable. I’m just living my life, ya know – and figuring myself out. Love is part of that. I’ve felt lows, disappointment…frustration, surprise…

Obv these aren’t the most fun times, but I can’t help but feel like this is not a bad thing –

For me, it’s all about how I use the emotion and the energy. How I learn, react, become better – how I rise above. How I smack that shit back into perspective. It’s all good. Really, if I have my health, my freedom, my safety – no matter what, it’s all good. Life is beautiful, timing is unique for each of us, and it’s all just part of the journey, part of the human experience.

We need heartbreak, to balance out the really good. To keep us on our toes. To make the sweet times even more sweet.

Realize that sadness can contribute to serious, profound, meaningful, big-ass change. Use the sad times to reflect, know who you want to be, call yourself out on how you’ve been falling short and put it to good use. Make a plan, and get to it!

I’m not sure if I believe that everything happens for a reason, because I’m not sure yet if I think life is calculated or random. But either way, I do think you can learn from every thing that happens, use the lessons to rationalize and find amazing doors to open ahead. Every end is a new beginning – straight up, because life continues and things don’t stop happening. While you’re alive, that is fact. During the lulls, just be a badass – know that something exciting is on the horizon. Just use the time getting ready for the beautiful, whenever it shows up – because beautiful always does show up. There’s always a rainbow after the storm, and usually sooner than you think.

I once read a quote that said life is about milky highs and creamy lows. Truueee. They allow for each other. It’s all part of the game.

So buck up. Take care. Be happy even when you’re sad. Contribute to the world. Be a good person. Live a productive life. Trust the universe. Know that the energy you radiate is the energy you get back. Keep it in perspective. Be kind. Don’t shit on yourself. Don’t be lazy. Be proud. Volunteer. Travel. Get outside of your little box. Be real with yourself. See things for what they are. Do the work. Be true ~ to yourself and others.

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6iced matcha latte drink
I’m obsessed with iced matcha lattes lately, I discovered them this summer and can’t stop ~ won’t stop. The taste is unique and maybe acquired, but I really enjoy it now and also love the way matcha tea makes me feel. It’s a bright green, potent version of a green tea – it’s super energizing (a great alternative to coffee ~ and much better for your health) and has lots of benefits.

Matcha is a powerful antioxidant, it boosts your immune system and helps prevent infection, is detoxifying, energizing and packed with nutritional value.

Since it’s summer and hot AF in NYC – I’ve been drinking iced lattes. They can get expensive (and it’s hard to guarantee clean ingredients when eating out) —> and so I decided to start making them at home. The recipe is as easy as Sunday morning. See below. xxx.

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Hanging upstate with my besties 

I haven’t written lately – but I’ve been thinking about Crush and Glow a lot. All of the time, really. It’s been an interesting few months for me, a lot has been going on – lots of growth, and progress. Some difficulty, too. A bit of change. That’s life. I haven’t written in a while because I haven’t been making the time, but also I’ve been contemplative about my niche. About my message, how I express it, who I am, my angle, my target. I think Crush and Glow at the core is inherently me – it’s integrity, intentions, hopes, dreams, passions. But I think the way I was putting it forward, packaging it up, visually mostly…was a little less mine. I want to rejigger. Get a little loose, a little more sloppy, a little more…me.

I took a photography class over the past few months and hope to be able to capture my life, and my lifestyle, in a more compelling way. I want to take a photoshop class. I want to learn so many things. Ultimately, I’m working toward being able to express Crush and Glow in the way I want to, in the way I think of it in my head.

But, regardless of the blog, I am always (constantly) working on myself. Cultivating my lifestyle, thinking, evolving, learning, changing, growing. Maturing. I worked with a therapist for a couple of months to understand some of my eating patterns from my past. I’ve also worked with some clients recently and as always that is very rewarding. I’m doing things. Things are happening. Surely, but slowly.

Just saying hi, xxx

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Walking in the woods with little Edie

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Sweet Janey boo

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I think a lot of our ability to live healthy lives and maintain a natural weight in adulthood is determined by the habits we learn and/or establish during our childhoods – and therefore those we have today. What we do in our early lives…the river runs really deep. It almost feels like those behaviors are engrained in our makeup. Like we’re programmed that way. Like we could never change them. But we can.

What we learn early on can be unlearned. It’s about identifying what’s happening and doing the work to make new habits. This can be a hard thing to do, really hard sometimes. But it’s worth it. If you have a habit or many that aren’t serving you, you need to change them up so you can let them go.

At times in my life when I felt like I was overeating or eating too much of the wrong kind of food – I think it was about how I used my time. Patterns I established really early on, as far back as I can remember. Maybe some of them started in the womb, who knows for sure. The things we learn in our young lives are like second nature, they’re all we know and they’re all our bodies know.

So changing them can feel really hard.

But it can be done and it’s so worth it.

Some examples of good habits –

  • Eating 3 meals per day and waiting for meal times to eat, only snacking if really, truly hungry
  • Not eating too late at night
  • Sitting down to eat meals
  • Not rushing to eat, not scarfing food down
  • Having small servings of dessert or sweet foods
  • Listening to your body and eating what and how much you sincerely need at that time
  • Thinking of food as nourishment and energy
  • Cooking and preparing real, whole food at home
  • Drinking lots of water
  • Regular physical activity
  • Cultivating creative and spiritual outlets

Some examples of bad, harmful habits –

  • Eating at any random time, snacking often
  • Eating straight from a container or package
  • Eating packaged foods without being mindful of ingredients
  • Eating on the go or in front of a TV
  • Eating in response to emotions, using food as company or as something to do
  • Eating late at night
  • Being lazy or uninspired
  • Drinking soda and soft drinks

If in each moment you’re about to fall back on an old, bad pattern – do everything you can to divert from it and take the better action. It will feel hard at first, and you likely won’t always succeed – but keep fighting and pushing in the right direction. Over time, if you can make the better decision as much as possible, it will start to retrain your habits – and your body and mind will start to get used to the new behavior. This won’t happen over night, and could even take years – but just think about how fast time flies, and think that in a few months or a few years you’ll be better off than you are today. It’s never too late. You don’t have to be a hamster on a wheel.

For me, I started saying to myself that I wanted to spend my time (also money and energy) on producing things. I wanted to use my time to feel good and be productive, to have something to show for it. It doesn’t always have to be tangible, but in general I like to use my time doing things that check something off my list in some way, that make me feel better (not worse) when I’m done and that move me forward in the direction of my dreams. In the direction of the person I want to be. This can be errands, art, exercise, baby steps toward long-term projects or goals, walking outside, window shopping, reading, relaxing, shopping, self-care, home-care, spending time with loved ones, and the list goes on.

I learned that sometimes when I was stuck in old patterns, it was almost like my body was on autopilot. And a lot of times those moments felt hectic or anxious and it was hard to think clearly. So I started making lists. When I’m having moments of clarity or inspiration, I write ideas down. This way, now, when I catch myself wanting to fall back to older, more destructive or less healthy habits, I check my lists and choose an activity.

For example, here are some of the things on my list today –

  • Organize makeup and jewelry
  • Clear out old clothes (I am constantly doing this, always getting rid of clutter)
  • Sell things on ebay
  • Book store! (also always on my list)
  • Work on Crush and Glow (passion projects are super healthy and important, I think)
  • Tint my eyebrows
  • Make nut milk
  • Buy/hang shelves
  • Do my hand wash
  • Read/make new health coaching outlines
  • Sign up for a photography class
  • Find a Photshop tutor
  • Take a bath and use body scrub
  • Clean!
  • Watch Star Wars
  • Plan my next trip

In general – I’m always think about getting any chores done, doing something active, resting if that’s what I need, connecting with friends, taking a bath, learning.

Bottom line is that if you have unhealthy patterns, it’s not who you are it’s just what you’ve learned. It’s the second nature you’ve established. But you can change that path, and be in control of your own destiny. Just know who you want to be and what you want to spend your time doing, write it down and then start working those things into your life. Replace old habits with new ones. Slowly but surely you can engrain new behaviors, those that are self-serving and that you can be proud of. It’s never too late and it is SO worth the adventure.

Happy Sunday!❤

xxx

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Reaching your goals for health is about your lifestyle. Hands down.

It’s not worth it if it’s a short-term fix or only a bandaid solution to one piece of the puzzle. The beauty of a properly-informed, healthy lifestyle is that everything works together, each piece contributing to the success of the whole. Symbiosis.

To me, a healthy lifestyle is when someone eats good-quality, whole foods from nature that are best for them based on a few key things – like how the foods make them feel; what’s important to them in terms of integrity or politics of products, for example; and what habits and routines realistically fit into their life. There’s also a piece that’s equally important – everyone should know the non-food aspects of their lives that fill them up, balance them and therefore keep them healthy. Things like good relationships, responsible spending, creativity, spirituality, work they love and physical activity.


 

For example –

When you clean up your life and eat high-quality, real food and make the refinements that are best for you specifically, the benefits are countless. Your body finds a natural weight without overthinking it, you clean up your gut so that it can function properly and optimally, your skin clears, you gain energy and confidence, you avoid disease and infection, you strengthen your immune system, you sleep better, your mood improves, you respect the planet, and the list goes on. It all works together and shows up in a lot of places – like on your body and in your doctor’s office, to name a few. It’s holistic.

If you were to treat one of these areas singularly, you may see some short-term, isolated progress, but it could be makeshift or cause side effect somewhere else – which feels small picture to me. I think there will then always be something, many things, to keep working on, pigeonholed in your big picture.

Adapting a regime like counting calories, weight watchers, paleo, raw, vegan, south beach diet, pills…the list goes on, doesn’t seem like a long-term solution to me. They’re too isolated in theory, too limited, rigid, circumstantial and most importantly, they don’t teach the individual how to get in touch with their body and think for themselves.

Every person is different from the next – based on things like preference, heritage, level of activity, age, climate, blood type, location and more. And – each of us is different from the way we used to be – as we grow and change over time, our lifestyles should adapt. We should be able to identify those needs for ourselves, and know how to make the necessary changes at any time.


 

That’s why I sincerely believe in and love health coaching. To give that gift – to help people find the lifestyle that is tailored just for them and help them be the very best version of themselves. Life shows up, and times get hard or inconvenient, yet you share how to easily make the best possible choices in any given situation. You teach someone how to live, how to find joy and peace.

Changing your lifestyle does not happen over night, it’s important to realize that. But it does start to show up quickly, and the day-day is way better than continuing on any destructive path. You need to learn fundamental information step-by-step and slowly integrate it into your life. As you do so, it naturally starts to sink in and you continue realizing the lessons more and more as you go. It’s just about starting the journey! Feeling the effects, getting excited and continuing to take it deeper over time – at your own pace.

Bottom line: discovering your healthy lifestyle is a game-changer. There’s endless possibility, and serious benefits to gain. It’s never too late, or too early. Don’t overthink it, just get excited – to be in control and feel your best! Eat real food from nature, pay attention to how they make you feel, spend your time doing things that stimulate you and make you feel alive, know your sources of information and find physical activity that you love.

More here.

❤❤❤

xxx

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Oooooooook, so it’s been a while. My bad. Ugh, I am the.worst. I have so many ideas and things I want to say and share – I need to be better about making the time. I know I will over time, because this is all important to me. Very.

Anyway, I turned 30. I’m feeling it. It’s kind of a weird realization that I’m a real adult, kind of…if anyone is ever a real adult. But otherwise I just feel like me. Me that’s growing up and getter better with age and learning from my mistakes and learning how to live.

Rather than dwelling on getting older I’m just focusing on stepping my game up, and being excited about all of the opportunities ahead. All of the things I’m closer to now that I’m a real person standing on my own two feet. It hasn’t been easy and I have a long way to go, but I am here. Here I am.

I want to take better care of my skin and my body, I want to travel more, I want to experience more people. I want to grow my career and my business. I want to read alllllll the books, and see more plays and learn how to wear makeup. The au natural look isn’t what I’m going for in my next decade, I think — still working that out. Maybe I’ll get dressed up a little more and wear leggings a little bit less and stop wearing my puffer winter jacket. I’m starting to give a huge F about my savings account and having money in my 401k. I don’t have time to be hungover anymore because I have projects to work on and neighborhoods to explore and friends and family to see.

I’m constantly clearing out my apartment, it’s amazing. No clutter. Zero clutter allowed. If I don’t wear it, out! If it’s a book I have but have never read, goodbye. If I have two of something, or don’t love you a lot – not needed. I don’t want a lot of things, I don’t want to collect things or have baggage. I want space and cleanliness and openness. I want to feel light, clear headed. I want to feel free. I’m kind of not free but I’m also pretty damn free. It depends on how you slice it.

On the day of my birthday I felt weird, my chest was tight and I didn’t want any attention – like, attention for no reason. Birthdays are weird to me. Maybe I’ll feel differently one day. The day after my birthday I felt so lighthearted, like a feather. I felt like I left my house missing things, but I wasn’t missing anything. Fresh. Happy. Alive.

I want to do more. I want more from myself. I don’t have any time to waste. This is life, right now. Happening. The clock is ticking every second and I have things I want to achieve. I’m making it happen slow and steady but I want to take bigger strides. I want to do more. I want more. Not more things, but more productivity, more accomplishments, more contribution.

I have big dreams but will only realize them if I take action toward them every day, every minute.

My friend shared a quote the other day –
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I am almost there, but I need to GET THERE.

Working on it, I can’t wait.

What are your hopes and dreams? Get out there and make. them. happen.

xoxo.

B.

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